|29th Aug 2014✧12:501,130 notes
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Yeah, so something that shits me massively: I saw this video recently where Madiha Bhatti starts talking about music and the objectification of women in contemporary music, and then hates on Beyoncé for wearing fancy jewellery and not wearing pants/sexualising herself. I mean, while she has some good points about the lyrics of male artists being degrading and dehumanising women, I think she’s got it wrong over female artists who chose to express their sexualtiy. Madiha Bhatti has to know that owning your sexual agency and being a feminist are not mutually exclusive – as Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie reminded us:
“We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man. Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.”
Why do we all act like women who are keen on equal rights can’t be sexual? Why do we pretend like they aren’t permitted to express their sexual agency? Hell, I think Beyoncé is an example of a woman who says, “I am here. I am strong. I am a business woman. I am a wife. I am a mother. I am sexual. I am successful. I am independent.” Feminism is about the freedom of choice, and whether you want to wear pants or not, it’s your choice. Let’s not strip her – or any other woman* – of their right to express their many facets.
Ladies, you can have it all.
You were in a dream of mine. Also in this dream; a house with confusingly too many rooms, and each new room alternated between 'Western' and 'Vietnamese' style. The detail was impressive; walls, furniture, storage spaces, kitchen fitouts, windows, natural light exposure, stairways, everything. I thought it might be an interesting stimulus, and you clearly 'own' rights to it already since you were in it.
Ha, I couldn’t say that I “own” it as it was your mind that thought it – but I think ownership is a strange thing anyway.
I had a dream where nadiaaboulhosn was my girlfriend and we rocked up to a date wearing the same grey tracksuit matchy-matchy sloppy joe and sweatpants, but she looked much better in it than I did. I said I should change into something else but then I didn’t, and then played on the swings until we were late for our flight to Japan.
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When you’re so tired and you’re scrolling through tumblr and you think, “Ha! Look at that gif!” and then you realise it’s a still image, and you are not okay.
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I love your face!!!!😍
Hehe, thanks pal. I love your kindness! x
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